I remember last week little Brittany came to school with her father because she had left her jacket in gym. They had stop by the gym to see if the jacket was still there.When Brittany and Mr. Cohen walk in the classroom Ms. Sharon I was handing the class their breakfast. Mr. Cohen disrespectfully started to yell at me that Brittany lost her jacket last Friday and the school needs to replace it. Mr. Cohen and all the other parents know and understand I have a class rule. We always say good morning or afternoon or evening if we see each other. I wanted to give him a couple of minutes to remember the class rule and a least say good morning. Instead I turn around started to yell back at him. What I should have done is been cooperative and asked him if he remember my rule when he walked in the classroom. Cooperative strategy would have been the best way to handle this situation. I should have remember to use my 3 R's because when you give respect you will receive it. It is a reciprocal reaction and response.
Later this week I ask Ms. Sharon how would she would have handle that situation? She responded sometime people don't remember everything being more cooperative and not yelling would have been the best thing to do. She also said you don't want to have a conflict. It is best to see what is wrong with the other person before you start to yell. Also the children can feel the energy in the class and we don't want them to get upset.
Hi Darrell,
ReplyDeleteWe sometimes get caught off guard when we begin our busy day. We let our guard down and the least thing can sometimes cause a conflict. I think after calming down you were able to rationalize on how that situation should have been handled. You were able to reflect on how you handled it and what should have happened. I do think you have the situation under control.
Hello Darrell,
ReplyDeleteIf only we could think in some situations before we speak, just how simple relationships would be. You acted out in the same way that a lot of people would and what side of the bed did you get out on that morning. Actually, I don't really believe in getting out on the wrong side. I'm so glad that that conflict was resolved and apologies are always welcomed, they do matter. Once again you're not alone and yes the 3R's would have helped in that situation.
Brenda
Hi Darrell,
ReplyDeleteWouldn't it be great if parents remembered rules just as good as the children? Reading your post gave me a chuckle because my parents think the rules of the class only apply to the children. Also, I do have that very same rule in my classroom and for the most part parents follow the rule except when they get angry or upset about something. Its like all the rules are erased out their mind because they are fired up. I would agree that yelling wouldn't have been the best thing to do. The last thing children want to see is their parent and teacher not getting along especially if all year you have been encouraging children to be nice to their friends. However, in the moment you don't about all of that. I am happy that you are not a professional that doesn't have a problem asking what could you have done different. That to me shows a true sign of maturity. Thanks for sharing!